The ultimate guide to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship
Love is beautiful! The joy of waking up beside your special one is nothing compared to hugging a teddy when sleeping. The happy moments, relationship drama, annoying misunderstandings, unexplainable unity, and the bond formed make the experience memorable.
As humans, we have differences, which is no different with couples deeply in love.
Every relationship starts with happy moments, but the actual test of any relationship is TIME. How healthy or toxic will your relationship be in the long run?
Sadly only a few relationships stand firm after the first six months.
Moving on, do you want to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship? Well, I bring you good tidings!
In this guide, I will elaborate on ten habits of happy couples in healthy relationships.
Here's a quick summary of the article:
The following points are further elaborated for clarity and comprehension.
1. Reciprocity
Happy couples reciprocate each other's love. You received a call from a friend seeking assistance desperately, and out of your generosity, you lent a helping hand. Fast forward to the present, you require help, and you reach out to this person only for them to tactically sideline your request. How would you feel?
Only the one who 'cares less' would let the scenario described above slide without feeling hurt or disappointed. While one can ignore it in a casual friendship, a lack of reciprocity can't be shoved aside in romantic relationships.
Reciprocity of love is essential to a healthy relationship; making your relationship one-sided is a surefire way to wreck the ship.
2. Appreciation
It is essential to recognise your partner's effort in making it possible that your demands are attended to. It takes nothing to tell them how much they mean to you; a little pat and a long deep stare in the eye could relay a more heartfelt message than the most eloquent words. Appreciation is the spice that sweetens a relationship.
You could schedule a hangout or maybe just a light party where your Special One takes the spotlight in the event; you could make a public declaration of how much your spouse has helped you so far, just anything to let them know that you are very much aware of their effort in making your relationship grow, healthy.
Your appreciation will encourage them to do more.
3. Engaging In Each Others Interests
Showing zero interest or participation in what makes your partner happy or fulfilled is one way of telling them you don't care. Happy couples create time to engage in each other's hobbies. Even if you can't participate physically, ask them questions, and listen attentively, allow them to talk about their passion.
If you find out how much cooking means to them, and you aren't the type for getting your hands laden with spice and seasoning, you could engage by being present and helping to pass the plates or the ingredients they need. That singular act of engaging in their interest would live the memory and would make the relationship healthy and comforting.
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4. Always Celebrate Birthdays And Anniversary
Naturally, we are drawn to anyone who shows genuine interest in what seemingly should be our private life. Likewise, we are open to individuals who painstakingly take their time to remember our birthdays.
Birthdays and anniversaries can strengthen the emotional bond in a healthy relationship and should be remembered promptly. When recalled by couples, these rare moments go a long way to enhance the love and, when ignored, could be the time bomb waiting to explode in the relationship.
5. Positive statements
Words unlock the hearts of men. A simple word of encouragement can boost the morale of someone doing something they usually find daunting. Never underestimate the power of positive statements; every relationship needs a daily dose of this medicine.
A positive statement would help improve your spouse's mood when they experience a rough day at work or on the road. Your positive words can lift your partner's spirits and encourage them to embark on a highly demanding yet profitable venture.
Words are magical. Use them to create the magic that would improve your relationship.
6. Regular Review of The Relationship
This is more than just a business model. It works in relationships.
One of the reasons why relationships fail is because partners barely find time to talk about their displeasure. Create time to discuss your relationship's state (health status) and make adjustments where necessary.
Finding time to discuss your relationship would prevent thoughts and assumptions that aren't healthy for the connection. For instance, throughout the relationship, there was a time maybe you or your Special one couldn't make it for a birthday or anniversary without pre-informing you/them of it, that could register in the mind, and though the relationship goes on that very matter is yet to be attended to.
The very moment such is discussed and brought bare, there is a burden lifted off you or your special one and an improved sense of understanding which in turn would lead to keeping the relationship healthy, all because, at one point in it, you call for a review. While it's not necessary to have a review for this cause alone, remembering to find time for you and your Special one to go back to the drawing board would play a massive role in keeping your relationship healthy.
7. Consummating The Relationship
What profit is in a romantic relationship without emotional attachment? It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that your relationship can thrive without any form of bodily bonding and that you both could still find love easy to express even when you don't copulate. How funny.
Scientifically, it's been proven that regular sex is beneficial for the body, and whoever the parties are, it is also healthy for their relationship to bloom.
See sex as the extra fuel needed to keep the fire burning,g, and you would never be caught in the web of a failing relationship. Never.
Of the love languages not adequately communicated, emotional and sexual language seem to top the list because most couples feel out of place when engaged or try to bring up the topic.
If your partner or even you craves intimacy, and yet for a long time you haven't had the opportunity to do so with your partner, chances are that you begin or they begin to feel like the love is one-sided and, due to that, become promiscuous. Save your relationship by remembering to consummate your relationship as and when due if you want to keep it healthy.
8. Mutual understanding of personality traits
Always bear in mind that no two persons are the same, which applies to identical twins. The understanding of others is what makes any relationship or friendship successful. A romantic relationship is no different.
Get to that point where you or your partner's wrong character don't get to impact negatively on your relationship, and this can only be possible if there's a personality Understanding between you both.
While there may be shared or similar interests that drew both of you into the love web, there are other traits you two would have to learn to put up with. If he snores while sleeping and you have often complained about it, and it keeps repeating itself, you could find alternative ways not to let his attitude irk you that much, by getting earmuffs, etc.
Find out that she often has a habit of taking,g forever to get dressed for any occasion, and you have talked her into the need to make haste in her dressing up to no avail. Try having your bath much later, probably when she's about to finish dressing up.
Understanding your spouse's personality is one thing to remember to keep a relationship healthy.
9. Adaptability
When push comes to shove, we adapt. This applies to any romantic relationship as well.
Adapting in the context of things to remember to keep a relationship healthy means that times or something you would expect your partner to do as per it's their duty, and it happens they don't shouldn't get at you that you would want to throw in the towel.
At this point, trying to see in 3D is needed, and even when it is glaring that the faults point to your partner, knowing how to roll with the tide becomes essential if you ever want to make the relationship grow from being good to healthy.
Simple things like them turning off the faucet after doing the dishes or even placing a device or something incorrectly and they aren't around, being adaptable means you were trying to right their errors by either taking the piece/device placed in the wrong spot back to the right or even turning off the faucet before their return. This singular act would go a long way to making your relationship healthy—Imbibe adaptability.
10. Respecting Partner's Core Belief
Nobody likes one who is not respectful. Even a child accords respect to an adult who tries to respect themselves. True that.
Respecting your partner's core belief as a point to remember to keep a relationship healthy denotes that you don't go about trying to infringe on something they have always held dear, even before meeting you, when done could see your relationship soaring.
Maybe your partner is a firm believer of the supernatural and the spiritual, and you don't share such sentiments; your duty isn't to talk them off but to see how well you would try to let that fit into your belief system so that you both coexist amicably.
Where there is a will, there is a way, and when love is involved, there is always a way.
Conclusion
Keeping a relationship healthy shouldn't be complex. Knowing that you need to be adaptable, respect your partner's core beliefs, carry out general reviews, etc., are ways to help you and your relationship grow from strength to strength. Do the right thing by putting to practice what you've learned from this article until next time.
Ciao!
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